There was a recent discussion on DeenPort or should we be saying a discussion that always occurs in our communities but is rarely solved… the discussion being that of caste systems, which later started to focus on suitability within marriage. We don’t want to share our thoughts on marriage as that’s deep reflection for this pauper.
However, we don’t mind sharing something with you all… in the discussion on DeenPort we got really annoyed based on a moment that we remember when we was last in Pakistan. A family member told me not to talk to someone because she was of a lower caste… me being quite stern when I see an injustice occur, invited the girl and her small brother to our house for dinner that night. They were petrified as they knew the family member would be there for dinner too.
Every day I would invite them around and we’d run around the house chasing one another in the blazing sun, watching films, and dancing in the rain… my parents and uncle would look at us in astonishment; my grandfather would cheer along; and the little children in the village would join us in the most innocent act of humanity – to smile amongst one another. Every day we’d go ask the family member if they wanted to join in but they refused to as “we shouldn’t be speaking to such people”… then one day this pauper saw the effects of her duas being answered … the family member smiled when she realised there was happiness in the house and after joining us in our meal she said to those she once ignored “if you can then please do come tomorrow”. Such rahma spread in the house that day. Subhan’Allah.
Caste systems are a nightmare to get over but Alhumdulillah there is always hope for those that can see right from wrong and do their best to rectify such faulted mentalities.
We’re a faulted nation because we don’t see the wrong within our families or when we see the faults within our family we fail to correct them. We can relate to those who out of exhaustion give up on their families for a short while so that they can gain stamina to address their family in a different way. But for those that see wrong in their families and don’t even try – we have no words for you apart from reflect on what you’re doing.
May Allah give us sight to see what needs to be corrected, strengthen us all to enjoin in the good and correct the wrong , and make our our limbs, tongue and heart only work in His Name. Allahumma Ameen.